On a scale of 1 to 10, how thirsty are you for God?

How often do you read the Bible? How often do you pray? How often do you worship? Three questions that are all equally as important as the next but I’ll ask you an even more important question: How thirsty are you do to all three of those things on a daily basis?

It’s okay…take your time to think about it, and REALLY think about it!

Can I tell you that amazing things happen when you take time out of your day to focus on all three of those things. Truly amazing things happen. You begin to feel better, you begin to feel lighter, and you begin to see all your circumstances in a whole new light. Even the toughest of things, no longer seem so tough. That’s the power of the ‘Powerful 15’. 15 minutes, that’s all it takes.

5 minutes to read the Word of God.

5 minutes to Worship the name of Jesus.

5 minutes to Pray.

In total just 15 minutes out of your day but how willing and how thirsty are you to make time for Jesus?

I’ll be the first to admit that sometimes I would rather be doing something else with those 15 minutes. At times I would rather just be playing a video game, watching tv, or maybe reading a novel. At other times I just get so distracted by whatever is happening around me that I lose track of time and before I know it, it’s the end of the day and time to go to bed. Then a day becomes two days, and two days becomes a whole week where I didn’t make time for that Powerful 15. How easy it is to get into the habit of forgetting but how hard it is to get into the habit of making time. I typically try to read a chapter a day from the Bible everyday. I do pray every morning and every night. But I can say that I do struggle sometimes with worshipping. It wasn’t until last night that I finally understood what it was like to truly worship. Before going to bed, I was feeling anxious and down about myself. So I decided to do what any other normal person does nowadays and went on Instagram. Luckily for me, my church had posted something on their story about worship. The person talking said how wonderful things happen when we worship. That it isn’t just about singing along with a song absent minded but to experience it. I had no idea what he was talking about but I tried to do it anyways. I put a song on that I’m use to hearing at church, I closed my eyes, lifted my hands, and pictured the same atmosphere I feel at church while worshiping. I sang word by word, and truly had myself understand each and every single one of them. I can tell you that after the song was done, I felt completely different. I felt lighter and those feelings of sadness and anxiety were gone. Now I can’t wait to repeat the process again later tonight.

Sometimes that’s what it takes. It takes a change in ourselves to get thirsty. And yes, I know, a lot of people say that we should activity seek Jesus without expecting something amazing to happen. That we shouldn’t need these “miracles” to happen, in order to feel that hunger for Him because we should naturally feel it already. While I agree with that statement, I also agree that we are creatures that are driven by incentives. It’s okay if you needed to feel better in order to begin to experience that hunger. It’s okay if you didn’t feel that hunger before that breakthrough. Maybe a certain circumstance will drive you to ask God for a hunger, a desire, and some discipline to have regular time with Him. And that my friends, is the starting point. Make time for Him, tell Him how you’re feeling, and listen to what He has to say to you. The more time you spend with Him, the more you love Him every day.

“Be persistent and devoted to prayer, being alert and focused in your prayer life with an attitude of thanksgiving”.

Colossians 4:2

Here is the song I listen to last night and I highly recommend it if you haven’t already heard it 🙂

Good Grace (live) by Hillsong United

– Brigette


Refocus your focus in your relationships!

My boyfriend is my safe haven. Anything I may need, I go to talk to him, whether it’s for comfort or support and vice versa. Truthfully he is my best friend and we come together as advocates about 90% of the time. It’s amazing that we can do just about anything together but then that 10% kicks in, a certain topic triggers some sort of irritation and all compassion, patiences, and understanding flies out the window. From advocates to adversaries in the blink of an eye. It amazes me the kind of topics that triggers these behaviors. About 98% of the time, it is over something so insignificant but somehow one of us (mainly me) always finds a way to make it extremely significant. We lose focus of being advocates in the situations we face and after the storm passes, we are left with feelings of regret, shame, and resentment. Three feelings that could very easily destroy even the best of relationships.

So what do we do now?

Over the past few months, I have learned how important it is for a relationship to have a Godly foundation and any kind of relationship for that matter. It is so easy to forget on how we are meant to treat others when we are so focused on always being right and making it all about us. We go straight into victimizing and feeling sorry for ourselves. So what do we do? We pray to God that he might help us refocus our perspective during these conflicts. That instead of focusing on being adversaries, we refocus on being advocates.

”And let us consider each other carefully for the purpose of sparking love and good deeds”

Hebrews 10:24

Another thing that we face is the lackof energy we put into fixing the conflicts. Sometimes we may be so angry that it just seems easier to keep on fighting or to simply withdraw. Can I say, right now in a logical state of thinking, fighting and withdrawing probably consumes more energy. But how do we tell our aggravated/irritated versions that? Like Hello brain! Don’t you understand this simple concept?! I can’t count the number of times I have decided to withdraw because I felt like I didn’t have the energy to talk it out. Or the number of times I decided to fight because I just had to be right. Taking the time to work through our conflicts or to stop the competition takes so much energy from us that we decide to take the easy way out. It is so much effort that our selfish selves don’t want to put in. We need to refocus our focus.

Refocus your focus with these tips!

Here are 6 tips that you’ve probably heard over and over again so enjoy reading them once more 🙂

1). Agree to stop fighting. Agree to take some time to calm down and pray about it. Whether it’s with a friend or your significant other, a breather may be in order.

2). Listen to each other and make sure you are REALLY listening to what the other person is saying. (I’ll admit I’m not the best at this one but I will try my hardest to get better at it)

3). Make sure you understand the other persons perspective. (Also not the best at this one but I’ll continue to try)

4). Explore solutions together. This one is so simple and yet I feel like it might get overlooked a lot. But it works! In the process of trying to find a solution, you begin to calm down and now you focus on solutions instead of your anger.

5). Pick one solution and follow through with it.

6). The most important tip of all! PRAY to God that he will help both of you deal with any conflict with grace, patience, and compassion.

“May the God of endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude toward each other, similar to Christ Jesus’ attitude. That way you can glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ together with one voice”

Romans 15:5-6


Competition in our relationships

I wanted to start a series for the next few days, based off a devotional I began to read. We all know as well as the next person that arguing with each other is inevitable. It happens often, more often than we would like to admit. These arguments have a way of sneaking up on us in the smallest of ways. Maybe you didn’t like the way your boyfriend sneezed…or maybe you didn’t like the way your girlfriend laughed. For whatever reason you get irritated and there begins the arguing. These arguments typically don’t end until one or the other wins. Win/lose situations. One of us always has to come up on top.

First step: Awareness

I always say the first step to fixing a problem, is to be aware of it. To consciously understand it is going on and admit it is a problem. I’ve come to understand that conflict is a part of life. Every single couple and every single friendship has conflict. So why the win/lose situations? Why not have a win/win situation? When you think about it, it is always a competition. “I have to be right! I am right and you are wrong” and oh boy how it hurts for us to admit we can potentially be wrong. Since we were little youngsters that where in sports or dance, we have been taught to be competitive. Compete to get first place. Compete to get to the finals. As we grow up, the competitive nature doesn’t die down, in fact it might even increase. Compete to get the job over hundreds of other applicants. Compete to get employee of the month. Now don’t get me wrong, none of those things are bad. That kind of competition has taught us to be consistent and and not give up. This kind of nature becomes a problem when we bring it into our relationships. Instead of fighting together against the problem, we fight each other because of the problem. And there is where you have the win/lose situations. The funny thing is, the jokes on us because we both end up losing.

Put your awareness into practice!

I don’t know about you, but I become extremely frustrated when these arguments come about in my life. They end up overwhelming me and my boyfriend in the process. They diminish the joy we could have. I know I am here talking about this subject with some knowledge that I picked up from a devotional, but the truth is that I’m far and very, very far from fully understanding this concept. I write it down here in hopes that as I shed some light for anyone, I also shed some light for myself. So here are two things that I plan to put into practice:

1). Understand this verse:

“Conduct yourselves with all humility, gentleness, and patience. Accept each other with love”

Ephesians 4:2

How difficult it is to be humble, gentle, and patient in the midst of a conflict. We need so much practice but one victory at a time right? At least you’ve become aware of how you should act.

2). Pray!

Seriously tho…pray. Whenever you are faced with conflict, arguments, or disagreements…pray to God that He may help you to see another persons perspective instead of just your own. I know this is easier said than done but the more we put this into practice, it will eventually become a habit. Be aware that we have to be humble, gentle, and patient. Whenever you catch yourself in the midst of an argument not acting in that manner, pray to God that he pulls you back in the right track.


Where do you get your self-worth from?

I struggle with feeling like I’m not good enough. Plain and simple like that; straight to the point. On a normal everyday bases, I struggle with this when I get on instagram, or while walking down the street. I might see someone that is doing better than me, someone with better hair, or someone with a prettier smile. We come across people that just seem to be doing 10 times better than us and ultimately we may believe they matter more. We all struggle with this and even if you say you don’t, at some point in your life, you have compared yourself to someone else. We tend to view our personal value as the things we have done, the things we don’t have, and the things others say about us. All those things can led to feelings of shame, guilt, and regret. Those are three factors that can easily destroy your minds perception of yourself. If we do this day to day with other people like us, then imagine what happens when we think of God and then think of ourselves. God is holy and He is perfect in every way. We could absolutely never measure up to Him. We aren’t suppose too and I believe here is where the problem lies when people say “Me go to church? Oh no girlfriend, I would burst into flames the moment I step through the door. Do you know all the things I’ve done? God would never allow me into church!” Those are real words, spoken by a real person that I once invited to go to church with me. Sad that they had this perception of themselves and God. If they only knew how loving and forgiving our Father really is.

What determines our personal value?

Imagine living your life, feeling insignificant because you are 25 and have yet to start your career. Or imagine feeling insignificant because you are 30 and have yet to get married and start a family. Oh boy! Imagine the stuff your friends and family are going to say about you…Lordy, Lord. Performance and self-esteem. That is what both of those things weight heavily on. But can I tell you that YOUR personal value doesn’t come from the things you’ve accomplished or the things you have yet to accomplish. It actually comes from a place much deeper than that; it comes from within. It comes from understanding who you belong to. We base our self worth on the things we can see, instead of on the love from the One we can’t see. I can’t count the number of times I’ve compared myself to a instagram model, asking myself why I didn’t look like her. I truly believed that if I looked like those girls, my worth would go up. It’s sad. I spent years with this kind of mentality and it only made me more miserable. I still felt that I needed to do more to make myself matter. What was the next trend I had to follow, or when did I need to post my next selfie to get a bunch of likes…that would determine if my value was high right? Want to know when I truly discovered my personal value? It happened when I picked up a book called the Bible. When I decided to follow this ‘Jesus’ fellow that everyone was raving about. So, remember when I said that our true value comes from within? 

“God is within her, she will not fall”

Psalm 46:5

This applies to you to boys. But my point here is, our true value, the one that should mean the most to us, is living inside of us. It is literally stated in the Bible and if that verse isn’t convincing enough then lets try this one:

“You are utterly beautiful, my dearest; there’s not a single flaw in you”

Song of Songs 4:7

Again, that applies to you as well boys. It is stated in the Bible, that we will not fall because He is with us. And while we might see many flaws, He sees none. So forget comparing yourself to that Instagram model, or that person you saw walking down the street. Your value doesn’t come from trying to look or be like them, it comes from someone that sees perfection despite every single one of your flaws. If you matter in His eyes, then shouldn’t that be enough?

A sparkling diamond vs. A black backdrop

Imagine this comparison: a sparkling diamond, against a black backdrop. That diamond sure is going to shine huh? That is kinda what happens when we sinners come face-to-face with God’s ultimate purity. God’s holiness just seems so defined compared to everything we lack. I believe that is what happened with the person I invited to church. They compared their sinful ways to God’s ultimate goodness. They saw themselves as the black backdrop and God as the sparkling diamond. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m sure everyone of us has thought that way as well because at the end of the day we are all sinners. We have all done things that just don’t add up to Godly traits. We have done things that will have us want to walk away from Him because our ways and His ways just don’t go together. Despite how we might view ourselves compared to God, here is one of his many beautiful attributes:

“God caused the one who didn’t know sin to be sin for our sake so that through him we could become the righteousness of God”

2 Corinthians 5:21

He knew that we would always be sinners. We will never be pure enough, honest enough, or sinless enough. No amount of time spent at church will ever take that away. (Sorry to break it to you) Unfortunately, it is in our nature to sin. So thinking that all these ‘bad’ things you do now or have done, are a reason to not be allowed to get close to Him…….is completely wrong. That is why he sent Jesus. You are loved and you are forgiven and that is all you need to know. That is absolutely all you need to realize how much you truly matter. So again I ask, where do you get your self-worth from? I get mine from this ‘Jesus’ fellow, He is pretty awesome.


Cursing? Oh, that ol’ thing…

How quick are we to curse? Pretty quickly if you ask me. It’s as natural to us as breathing. How quick are we to not notice the words that come out of our mouths? We speak before we think, that’s a given. In today’s society, it has become the norm to speak fouly, to say profanities, and speak negatively. I’m guilty of this myself. I decided to write about this because it came to my attention of how insignificant we might view this. I mean, it’s something so small compared to all the other countless ways we could be doing wrong. But God takes into account all the BIG and SMALL things we do throughout our lives. At work, I notice how easily it is for kids to curse at each other. I hear the young girls referring to each other as “bi*****”. It’s normal for them to say “Hey bi***, how was your weekend?”. When did this ever become the norm? The worst part is, that if you don’t play along to words like that, you’re considered to be boring and a goodie-to-shoes. How sad that the norm to God is the un-norm to society. I wonder if we realize that through our words, we will be judged. I wonder if we realize that through our words, we are creating or destroying our harvest. I say ‘we’ because I’m including myself. As I write here, I am also learning. I am not preaching as if I know everything but instead just simply sharing what was placed in my path. Last night as I read Matthew 12, I came across these verses

“I tell you that people will have to answer on judgement day for every useless word they speak. By your words you will be either judged innocent or condemned as guilty”

Matthew 12:36-37

While I am referring more to cursing, I still believe that spreading rumors or negatively speaking about someone or ourselves could be considered “useless words”. We reap what we sow. The more we curse, the more we create a foul character. The more we speak negatively about others or ourselves, the more we destroy our good nature. I realize how simple of a subject this is and that there are more important things out there to focus on but something as simple as this has the power to create or destroy. It has the power to create our character or destroy our character. Will we have dignity in how we talk? Will we have dignity in how we refer to each other and acknowledge each other? Our words are a gateway to our characters. I know these behaviors have become normal to us so stopping them all together almost seems impossible. At some point throughout the day, our old habits will come out without our approval. We are quick to act and quick to speak. But I believe that if we become aware of this subject, then we will be able to stop ourselves one action and one word at a time.

“Keep your conduct among the Gentiles honorable, so that when they speak against you as evildoers, they may see your good deeds and glorify God in the day of visitation”

 1 Peter 2:12

Have a lovely day everyone, may you honor the one that loves you with your words!


It’s hard being a newbie Christian

In my previous post, I talked about how I grew up in a catholic home. I mentioned how difficult it was to make the transition to Christianity. Over the past few days since I started this blog, a thought has kept creeping up in my mind. “Being a newbie Christian is tough”. I began blogging with the intention of sharing my walk with Christ. I believe it is important to let others like me, know that they aren’t alone in freshly starting off their walk with Jesus. I say this because I know how terrifying it can seem when you look around at so many other Christians that have probably been in ministry for years. They seem so well put together. It’s intimidating and it can make one feel like we won’t ever know as much as them. But I’m here to tell anyone that might, or is currently experiencing these thoughts: YOU ARE NOT ALONE! 

So what difference could we possibly make for the growth of the Harvest?

A big concern of mine has always been on how can I make a difference. What more could I potentially add that someone more experienced hasn’t already done or said. I don’t know about you, but when that thought comes to my head, I can’t help but feel unbelievably small. I go to church, watch Joyce Meyer conferences, and read christian blogs by other devoted christians. I can’t count the number of times I have wished to have the knowledge and courage to preach the word of God as they all have. It is because of people like them, that we come across Jesus’s love. They spread the word by acting as messengers. How awesome is that? God has his own army and we can all join. We can all make a difference. We might come across ONE person, be a blessing to their day, and guess what happens next? Jesus’s love radiates from us, which then radiates onto that person you blessed, which later radiates onto the next person they bless. It is really that simple. It is an ever growing domino effect. Our body is a vessel that carries God’s spirit and our job is to be so filled with his love and grace that we glow with his goodness. 

‘Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you? Don’t you know that you have the Holy Spirit from God, and you don’t belong to yourselves? You have been bought and paid for, so honor God with your body’.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20

This is what I’ve learned….there are so many people out there that need to hear the word of God. It could be family members living in your own house or it could be a complete stranger living across the world from you. We don’t realize how easily we can make a difference to someones day. There might be a bunch of people out there, doing the exact same thing you would like to do right now. They are helping others in ways that you have only imagined to help but we ‘newbie christians’ don’t have to watch from the sidelines. It might be scary because who would possibly listen to us when just the other day we were sinning? But see thats the beauty about God. He forgave us and gave us the grace to overcome our old behaviors. He wants us to show others how he saved us. So yes, you might be new in your walk with Jesus but just remember that at the end of the day, it is all about growing the Harvest.

‘Then he said to his disciples, ‘The size of  the harvest is bigger than you can imagine, but there are few workers. Therefore, plead with the Lord of the harvest to send out workers for his harvest’. 

Matthew 9:37-38

Will you be his worker?

Jesus himself said that there were only a few workers. He wants us to follow him and lead by example. You might feel insignificant compared to all the other more experienced preachers but just remember that we were given the power to help others. Each one of us was placed on this earth with a calling. We are our happiest, most alive, and most like ourselves when we fully activate our calling. If in this moment or in any future moment of your life, you feel a calling to talk about the word, do it! Even us newbies can get in on the action of changing someones life. There is nothing difficult about God, we just need to spread his goodness onto others. So ask yourself “Am I ready to be his worker in this harvest?”


Military Weekends

Once a month, every first weekend of the month.

A man in uniform…can I get an Amen! Whether he is a nurse, or a doctor, or a policeman, or a firefighter (like mine) or in the military, there is something so attractive and honorable about them.When I first started talking to Josh, I was fan-girling left and right because he was a firefighter in the Air Force. I mean, how flipping cool is that? I was super excited to tell my family and friends about him. He had the aspiration to become a civilian firefighter as well so a double win! I was about to start dating such a cool guy that had so much going for him and best of all, he wanted me to be a part of it. I felt like I knew what I was getting myself into but I never really knew what I was getting myself into until I experienced it. In no way is this post meant to be a downer but instead a learning experience. When Josh got back from his deployment, I basically had him all to myself for a whole month. That month consisted of back-to-back movie dates, lunch and dinner dates, arcade dates, and anything else my little heart desired. It was fantastic and it felt like I was on cloud nine, but like anything else in life, everything comes to an end. I now had to share him with school, work, and these military weekends. I know how lame I am going to sound. I’m here complaining about a simple weekend, while there are girlfriends and wives that have to deal with months and years at a time without seeing their significant other. Even though I haven’t had to endure that long of a wait, I feel for all of you that have and I pray for you patients. For anyone that is dating a first responder, you understand how terrible the schedules can be.

I fell hard from Cloud 9.

When it came time to actually deal with the scheduling, let me just say I had a hard time adjusting to it. I have never ever in my life had the mindset of ‘‘absence makes the heart grow founder’, in fact, it has always been the complete opposite for me. As embarrassing as it may be to say this, I had a very selfish attitude with time. I had never faced a situation where I had to place someone else’s priorities over my own. I’m not going to sit here and say that I knocked it out of the ball park after a month of dealing with it because thats definitely not what happened. In fact, my mindset lead to many arguments that were in no way healthy for a new relationship. Thank God, that Josh was beyond understanding and had the patients to actually deal with the immaturity. So two things were happening here: 1). I was thinking of the past and 2). I was thinking of the future. I was worried because of past experiences and believed that if I didn’t have enough time with my significant other, he would stop loving me and leave me. I was worried about the future and what it meant to not spend time together. 1 + 2 = 3….which is as simple as I was making myself into a huge ball of anxiety and worry. All of that for absolutely no reason whatsoever. I am honestly beyond embarrassed that I had this mindset and even more embarrassed that sometimes I still slip and get a selfish attitude. I’m no where near perfect. My selfish attitude is probably one of my biggest downfalls but the very first step I took to changing that is acknowledging it. Yes, you read that right. Acknowledging my attitude. Instead of ignoring the bad traits we all have, I found it helpful to realize them and step out of the comfort zone they have placed us in and make a change for our own good as well as the good for those around us.

Is it easy? Heck no! Here are some things God told me:

I have come to believe that our bad traits have placed us in a sort of comfort zone. For example, anyone out there just despises to apologize? Even if at the end of the day, no matter what way you put it, it is completely your fault? I grew up watching some of my own family members never apologizing for certain actions they took. I believe it to be their pride that never allowed them to see past themselves. They were too scared to shatter their own egos even if it meant being on better terms with the people around them. Ego = your comfort zone. In my case, I was use to being selfish simply because it always got me what I wanted even if it would upset those around me. Terrible, terrible, terrible, I know! But like I said, it was my comfort zone, it was what I knew. Being patient? HA! Putting other’s perspective above my own? Double HA! Getting out of my comfort zone? Triple HA! So I began to pray about it. I asked God to help me with my attitude and allow me to become more humble. I started doing devotional based on humility and worrying and here is what I was told:

“Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up” – James 4:10 

“So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own” – Matthew 6:34

We alone do not have the power to change ourselves, but by cooperating with the Lord, we can overcome even our worst of habits. So here are the 3 simple steps I took to changing my bad attitude into a more humble and worry-free attitude:

1). Acknowledge it

2). Pray about it

3). Listen to what God has to say about it

Often times the best thing we can do for ourselves and those around us, is to realize our faults and want to make a change about them.